First of all Obama bringing up this issue at this time is COMPLETELY ASININE with the state of our economy and the national debt; But, i'm going to address it anyway to illustrate how government is too intrusive in our lives.
I've listened to several talk shows and the news, and nobody has been able to sort this thing out for what it really is. Here are the general Arguments:
1. Against gay marriage: The bible is against gay marriage and the definition of marriage is "the formal union of a man and a woman, typically recognized by law, by which they become husband and wife."
2. For gay marriage: Gays, like straight couples should have equal legal rights to marry because they are people too.
Here's what I think:
If you are a Christian and believe that it is wrong for homosexuals to marry, GREAT! Don't marry someone of the same sex. You can even believe that the gays who get "married" are going to hell because the bible says so. It will not affect your life in any way if the happy ding dongs down the street in unit C want to be together forever. "But marriage is defined as being between a man and a woman," you say...What are you the WORD POLICE? What will you do when you finish fixing all of the misused words in the English language? What's next grammar?
If you are gay and want to get "married" GREAT! Find a pastor who is willing to marry you and do it! You can even call it a "marriage" if you want! You can also call a ping pong ball a parakeet for all I care, it doesn't magically change the definition. All of your friends will accept it as a marriage anyway.
Here is the problem nobody talks about: GOVERNMENT. That's right. It should have absolutely nothing to do with handing out benefits or defining what is acceptable in peoples' lives as long as their behaviors don't interfere with anyone else. Whether or not someone finds homosexuality acceptable is between an individual and their god. The first amendment to the constitution establishes that "Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion." (note: this is not the same as "separation of church and state" which appears exactly zero times in the constitution.)
The government should give equal rights to all couples who have committed themselves and get as far OUT OF OUR LIVES AS POSSIBLE. As far as the government is concerned they could call it "marriages" for heterosexuals or "civil unions" for gays or "enslaved for life" it does not matter. I'm not a big fan of government taking all of our tax dollars then picking certain groups to bribe in order to encourage behavior politicians deem favorable, including tax breaks to married people. Why not just lower the tax rate for everyone below the rate of couples using the marriage deduction? or better yet, throw out the IRS and enact the Fair Tax?